When you first get sober, you may avoid attending weddings or other social events where people may be drinking or drugging. But sooner or later, you attend one of these events, knowing that picking up a drink or a drug to be sociable isn\u2019t an option for you. Some people choose to preserve their anonymity. If you\u2019re like them, you may not even tell anyone you\u2019re in recovery. There can be pros and cons to that. If you\u2019re surrounded by friends who are supportive of your recovery, you may be able to attend events like this without a great deal of difficulty. But if you\u2019re with people who are accustomed to seeing you as the life of the party, you may encounter some resistance, whether they are aware you\u2019re in recovery or not. When people do know you\u2019re now sober, it can be pretty surprising to hear some of the ignorant remarks that they make. Here are some examples. \u201cOh come on. You can have just one drink.\u201d This is a common misconception among people who are not in recovery. Just one drink is all it takes to set off cravings. When you admit you are an alcoholic, you have admitted that you can\u2019t drink in safety. Not even one. \u201cA little sip won\u2019t hurt you.\u201d When you refuse to have just one drink, you may be encouraged to have just one sip. Particularly at a wedding, when it\u2019s time for the toast, people may encourage you to take a single sip of champagne out of \u201crespect.\u201d You don\u2019t need to take a sip. If the champagne has already been poured, you can lift the glass as if you\u2019re going to drink it, but not actually sip it. It might help to hold your breath so you aren\u2019t attracted to the smell of the alcohol. If that\u2019s too uncomfortable for you, you can put water in your glass and take a sip of that. But remember: it\u2019s OK to simply say no. \u201cYou don\u2019t look like an alcoholic.\u201d Many people are under the impression that an alcoholic is a skid row bum who lives under a bridge drinking bottles hidden in brown paper bags. A good way to answer this is, \u201cWhat do you think an alcoholic looks like?\u201d \u201cYour drinking was never that bad.\u201d This one is usually said by someone who likes to drink heavily and can\u2019t understand why you\u2019re making a choice not to drink today. You don\u2019t need to justify your decision to give up drinking or drugging. You can say \u201cTrust me\u2014it was that bad.\u201d Or you can simply ignore the comment. \u201cAren\u2019t you cured?\u201d People sometimes are under the impression that if you have spent time in a treatment facility, you will come out cured of addiction and be able to go right back to the way things were without the consequences. A simple answer is \u201cnot yet\u201d or even simpler, \u201cI\u2019m choosing not to drink today.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re no fun sober! Come on, loosen up!\u201d This is another remark that is probably said by someone who really does need to keep drinking to relax and be sociable. Chances are this person isn\u2019t going to change his opinion. Simply smile and walk away\u2014you\u2019ll find someone that is comfortable hanging around with a sober person. It\u2019s important to keep in mind that those who are the most insistent that you drink or drug probably have a problem with substance abuse themselves. However, your job isn\u2019t to worry about them or to take responsibility for their recovery. Your job is to stay sober for this 24-hour period. If you aren\u2019t able to bring a sober person with you to an important social event, someone in recovery is only a phone call away. If you do experience craving, call a sober friend, step outside for a moment or if you have to, leave the event. Do what you have to do to get through this one day. Living without alcohol or drugs doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t attend social events where alcohol is present. It just means you have to remain vigilant and keep your desire to stay sober up front.