How should families deal with a loved one who has an addiction and help get that person into treatment? Madonna\u2019s 56-year-old brother, who is homeless and an alcoholic, made news in March when he said his famous sister hasn\u2019t tried to help him. Anthony Ciccone told the Daily Mail that Madonna "doesn't give a **** if I'm dead or alive. She lives in her own world." Dr. David Sack, President and CEO at Promises Behavioral Health, addressed the issue on a recent Huffington Post Live segment that asked whether an addict\u2019s family should ever walk away and end the relationship. Families must \u201cunderstand that their role is to create pressure toward treatment,\u201d\u00a0 \u00a0Sack told the Huffington Post, adding that treatment is \u201cconsequence-driven\u201d and that families must not allow the addicted loved one to avoid consequences or provide them with an \u201cout.\u201d \u201cPeople don\u2019t wake up one morning and say, \u2018Gosh, this is a really good day to get sober,\u2019 \u201d Sack said. \u201cSomebody puts their foot down. Sometimes it\u2019s the law. Sometimes it\u2019s a family member saying, \u2018we\u2019re not going to give you any more money.\u2019 \u201d Sack emphasized the importance of educating addicts\u2019 families about addiction. \u201cIt\u2019s an illness\u2026we can\u2019t cure it, but a person can achieve long term sobriety and abstinence with the appropriate treatment.\u201d\u00a0 Sack helps these families \u201cgain perspective,\u201d pointing out that addicts don\u2019t choose to behave the way they do.\u00a0 Rather, \u201ctheir reward system has been reprogramed by the drugs they\u2019ve been abusing.\u00a0 It\u2019s going to take time to undo the damage\u2026to their personality and their relationships\u2026that the addiction has caused.\u201d Dr. Robert Meyers, creator of the CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) treatment program; David Sheff, author of A Beautiful Boy: A Father\u2019s Journey; and Tom Scarborough, a recovering alcoholic and CEO of Nouvelle Candle Company, also took part in the Huffington Post Live segment. Sheff spoke of his gut-wrenching ordeal with his meth-addicted son, and how, after multiple failed treatment attempts, he finally had to take a very difficult \u201ctough love\u201d stance.\u00a0 He never turned his back, but he did have to pull away.\u00a0 \u201cI had learned the hard way the difference between enabling and loving and protecting a child.\u201d Scarborough said he finally sought treatment when he realized just how much his alcoholism had cost him, which included two marriages and a teaching position.\u00a0 Scarborough has been sober for 11 years, and Sheff\u2019s son has been clean for more than five years. Sacks\u2019 empathy towards families \u2013 and the fear, anger and resentment they so often experience \u2013 was palpable throughout the interview.\u00a0 Meyers noted that \u201cfamily members are the greatest resource\u201d for treatment staff to determine exactly what motivates an addict so they can help him or her stop drinking or using. \u201cWe have to make their sober life more rewarding than their drug-using life,\u201d Meyers said. \u201cThe best people who know that information are family members.\u201d Sacks also refuted the long-held belief that someone has to be ready for treatment to benefit from it. \u201cMost people find their motivation while they\u2019re in treatment,\u201d said Sack, who has found that most people don\u2019t think they have an addiction. So, instead of getting into a debate with them, he gets them to talk about the life issues that led them into treatment.