Is your mind overactive with \u201cthe grass is greener\u201d thinking? Do you sigh in frustration that you aren\u2019t living the life you imagined? Are you immersed in thoughts such as: \t\u201cWhat if I hadn\u2019t married my spouse and there\u2019s someone better for me?\u201d \t\u201cIf only I were thinner, prettier, better educated, healthier, or wealthier, I would be happy.\u201d \t\u201cWhen I graduate from college, get my ideal job, marry my soul mate, have children, make my first million, then I will have \u2018arrived.\u2019\u201d Call it wistful or wishful thinking that may motivate you to take positive steps \u2014 or deflate your balloon. Daydreaming is entertaining, and envisioning change can have benefit. Psychiatrist Stuart Twemlow, MD, says it offers \u201ca range of possibilities which, in the hard cold light of reality, aren't possible.\u201d When Daydreams Lead to Nightmares But when musing turns to obsession over the choices you\u2019ve made and fantasies become a barometer by which you measure happiness, daydreams can become self-sabotaging. Best-selling author Robert Holden, PhD, refers to this obstacle as \u201cdestination addiction,\u201d which he defines as \u201ca preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, and with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is someplace else, it will never be where you are.\u201d For those prone to addictive thought patterns and behaviors, destination addiction is the perfect setup for failure. Trading short-term gratification for the eventual fallout is a component of destination addiction. Getting lost in destination addiction can be as easy as plugging your goals into Holden\u2019s description that \u201chappiness is the next hit, the next high, the next acquisition, the next drink, the next orgasm, the next hot-fudge sundae, the next 10-pound weight loss.\u201d How to Feel Content The first step is acknowledging the pattern exists, noting when you are in \u201cI\u2019ll be happy when\u201d mode instead of the present. Can you recall the last time you truly felt content? It could have been when gazing up at a starry sky or in the presence of loved ones, while petting a dog or cat, or lounging in a hammock beneath the shade of an oak tree. In that moment, there was nowhere else you would rather have been and nothing else you would rather have been doing. Call it being \u201cnow-here\u201d as opposed to \u201cnowhere.\u201d Set intentions for what you want \u2014 sustained recovery, healthy, nurturing relationships, vibrant well-being, spiritual connection, and financial abundance. Then take inspired action to bring those desires into being rather than complaining if they\u2019re not yet part of your daily reality. Surround yourself with people who support and encourage your vision while grounding you in the present. Don\u2019t put off happiness while you\u2019re waiting for the seeds you\u2019ve planted to grow. What if delighting in the process is like Miracle-Gro that helps your crop to thrive? Eckhart Tolle says in his book, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment: \u201cIt is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.\u201d Don\u2019t be one of those people.